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I mentioned this about a month ago when I shared my recipe for an all purpose healing ointment, and now it is time to share: my recipe for coconut oil lubricant.
If you are related to me please don’t read this post.
There are many reasons why a couple (or individual) may need to use a personal lubricant. Excessive vaginal dryness can be caused by a myriad of things and without a good lube, sex HURTS. For those suffering from vaginismus, those with a small vaginal opening, or any other condition that can cause painful sex, a good lube is a must if there is any hope for sex being successful.
Trust me, I know.
So what makes a good personal lubricant?
1. Something that will not dry out. This is the main problem I always had with water-based lubes: they evaporate, and you are left with stick, gummy junk that really does not feel good.
2. A good lube contains no funky chemicals. Here is the ingredients label on my old bottle of KY:
Water, glycerin, hydroxyethylcellulose, gluconolactone, chlorhexidine, gluconate, methyparaben, sodium hydroxide
The warning label says, “Keep out of reach of children and away from eyes and ears.” Sounds advice, but here’s the thing: If you can’t eat it, don’t put it inside a different mucous membrane. The vagina is incredibly sensitive and will readily absorb whatever you put in it. This is how you get Toxic Shock Syndrome: toxins being absorbed into the blood from the vagina (banish the risk with menstrual cups). Keep your vagina healthy by avoiding sticking anything you wouldn’t swallow up there (sorry, I just had to use the word swallow).
3. Keep your fauna safe. The vagina is teaming with life! It is full of all sorts of friendly bacteria that keep you safe from infection. Have you ever gotten a yeast infection while on antibiotics? Yuck. The antibiotics killed all the good bacteria, which allowed the yeast in the vagina to get out of control. That’s why you need to eat your yogurt!
In terms of a lubricant, this means something that will neither feed the bad bacteria/yeasts nor kill the good ones.
4. Keep it compatible. The most important feature of a personal lubricant is that it works for you. You want something that meets all of your needs, and doesn’t give you a hassle during your quality time. It is also critical that your lube is compatible with your method of contraception. This means no oil for latex condoms and no silicone for diaphragms and cervical caps. When you use Fertility Awareness or are trying to conceive, all lubricants are compatible!
Why I Love Coconut Oil Lubricant
If you use latex condoms DO NOT use coconut oil lubricant with them! Some people say it is okay, but I would not be comfortable taking that risk.
Coconut oil lubricant fits all of the above criteria, and more. Whether you use coconut oil straight or doctor it up a bit, you know exactly what you are putting on your skin and into your body. It is really versatile; I’ve been known to reach into our lube jar to moisturize my hands. It is simple and cheap. Have you ever actually looked at how much store bought lube costs? Expensive! And the more natural stuff is even more! It is anti-fungal and anti-microbial, so it will not put you at risk for yeast infections. It will soak into dry skin, but it leaves no sticky residue and in general will keep you lubricated enough. If not it is easy to apply more.
In the winter, it is easy to just keep a small jar by the bedside table (don’t use the same container you use to eating…that’s not sanitary). Simply scoop out your desired amount, warm it between your hands, and go to town. However, when it is warm out, liquid coconut oil can turn into a huge mess. To avoid this, I enjoy taking my all-purpose ointment to create a more solid personal lubricant.
Adding essential oils
I consider the vagina to be internal use of essential oils. After all, it is a mucous membrane and it is very sensitive. You want to be careful. I only use pure, therapeutic grade oils that are listed as safe for internal use; that is they have a supplement facts label. Always start with less of an oil and add more if you feel necessary. The last thing you want is too much peppermint oil up in your vagina. Talk about a really cold mood killer!
My favorite oil to add is is ylang ylang. This is a relaxing oil that has been used to support normal hormone and promote libido. I add this to every batch of lube I make – 5 drops per batch of lubricant (about 1/2 cup).
Many people enjoy using peppermint essential oil to create a tingly lube – just 2 drops per batch in this case! Peppermint oil is much stronger than ylang ylang.
Have you tried using coconut oil as a lube? Would you?
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