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January 5, 2015 by How We Flourish

Coconut Oil Lubricant

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It’s time.

I mentioned this about a month ago when I shared my recipe for an all purpose healing ointment, and now it is time to share: my recipe for coconut oil lubricant.

If you are related to me please don’t read this post.

There are many reasons why a couple (or individual) may need to use a personal lubricant. Excessive vaginal dryness can be caused by a myriad of things and without a good lube, sex HURTS. For those suffering from vaginismus, those with a small vaginal opening, or any other condition that can cause painful sex, a good lube is a must if there is any hope for sex being successful.

Trust me, I know.

So what makes a good personal lubricant?

1. Something that will not dry out. This is the main problem I always had with water-based lubes: they evaporate, and you are left with stick, gummy junk that really does not feel good.

2. A good lube contains no funky chemicals. Here is the ingredients label on my old bottle of KY:

Water, glycerin, hydroxyethylcellulose, gluconolactone, chlorhexidine, gluconate, methyparaben, sodium hydroxide

The warning label says, “Keep out of reach of children and away from eyes and ears.” Sounds advice, but here’s the thing: If you can’t eat it, don’t put it inside a different mucous membrane. The vagina is incredibly sensitive and will readily absorb whatever you put in it. This is how you get Toxic Shock Syndrome: toxins being absorbed into the blood from the vagina (banish the risk with menstrual cups). Keep your vagina healthy by avoiding sticking anything you wouldn’t swallow up there (sorry, I just had to use the word swallow).

3. Keep your fauna safe. The vagina is teaming with life! It is full of all sorts of friendly bacteria that keep you safe from infection. Have you ever gotten a yeast infection while on antibiotics? Yuck. The antibiotics killed all the good bacteria, which allowed the yeast in the vagina to get out of control. That’s why you need to eat your yogurt!

In terms of a lubricant, this means something that will neither feed the bad bacteria/yeasts nor kill the good ones.


4. Keep it compatible. The most important feature of a personal lubricant is that it works for you. You want something that meets all of your needs, and doesn’t give you a hassle during your quality time. It is also critical that your lube is compatible with your method of contraception. This means no oil for latex condoms and no silicone for diaphragms and cervical caps. When you use Fertility Awareness or are trying to conceive, all lubricants are compatible!

Why I Love Coconut Oil Lubricant

If you use latex condoms DO NOT use coconut oil lubricant with them! Some people say it is okay, but I would not be comfortable taking that risk.

Coconut oil lubricant fits all of the above criteria, and more. Whether you use coconut oil straight or doctor it up a bit, you know exactly what you are putting on your skin and into your body. It is really versatile; I’ve been known to reach into our lube jar to moisturize my hands. It is simple and cheap. Have you ever actually looked at how much store bought lube costs? Expensive! And the more natural stuff is even more! It is anti-fungal and anti-microbial, so it will not put you at risk for yeast infections. It will soak into dry skin, but it leaves no sticky residue and in general will keep you lubricated enough. If not it is easy to apply more.

In the winter, it is easy to just keep a small jar by the bedside table (don’t use the same container you use to eating…that’s not sanitary). Simply scoop out your desired amount, warm it between your hands, and go to town. However, when it is warm out, liquid coconut oil can turn into a huge mess. To avoid this, I enjoy taking my all-purpose ointment to create a more solid personal lubricant.

Adding essential oils

I consider the vagina to be internal use of essential oils. After all, it is a mucous membrane and it is very sensitive. You want to be careful. I only use pure, therapeutic grade oils that are listed as safe for internal use; that is they have a supplement facts label. Always start with less of an oil and add more if you feel necessary. The last thing you want is too much peppermint oil up in your vagina. Talk about a really cold mood killer!

My favorite oil to add is is ylang ylang. This is a relaxing oil that has been used to support normal hormone and promote libido. I add this to every batch of lube I make – 5 drops per batch of lubricant (about 1/2 cup).

Many people enjoy using peppermint essential oil to create a tingly lube – just 2 drops per batch in this case! Peppermint oil is much stronger than ylang ylang.

Have you tried using coconut oil as a lube? Would you?

More Resources:
The Sexy Secret in Your Kitchen
Your Vagina’s Health
Coconut Oil for Intimate Uses

Shared on Wildcrafting Wednesday and Simple Lives Thursday.

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  1. Marisa@blogcabinmama says

    January 6, 2015 at 6:00 am

    I love it Chloe! Yeah for FAM and natural lube! Today is my 1 year FAMiversary! So glad that FAM made us friends! So glad we can share what we have learned with others!

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 6, 2015 at 10:20 am

      Congrats on your FAMiversary! That’s so exciting for you! I’m glad we’re friends, too, and there is one more person sharing FAM with the world.

      Reply
  2. Jennifer Margulis, Ph.D., author of The Business of Baby says

    January 8, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    That’s funny that you don’t want family members reading this. We love coconut oil for back rubs and lube!

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 8, 2015 at 3:45 pm

      I know my dad reads my blog…I don’t think he wants to read this particular post.

      Reply
  3. Anna says

    January 8, 2015 at 2:51 pm

    Great article. It is important to talk about these things like lubs, etc. There are so many lubs out there with many chemicals, so I think yours is a clear winner.

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 8, 2015 at 3:45 pm

      Thanks!

      Reply
      • Suzanne says

        September 18, 2016 at 7:16 am

        I have a question , I have coconut oil in my bathroom bought in the cosmetic section on f my local health food store and I have some in my kitchen. The one on the kitchen becomes solid the other doesn’t but the only ingredient in both is coconut oil. Which one should I use? Thanks

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        • How We Flourish says

          September 20, 2016 at 8:07 pm

          I’m not sure why that would be. It may have to do with the temperature of the rooms, or with how the coconut oil was processed. Without knowing more about the oil bought in the cosmetic section, I would favor on the side of caution and use the kitchen coconut oil, as it is being used internally.

          Reply
          • stephjoy1003 says

            March 24, 2017 at 1:13 am

            I’m thinking the coconut oil in your bathroom is fractionated coconut oil which has just been processed to have certain fatty-acids removed so that it does not solidify at room temperature. Either that, or it’s much warmer in your bathroom than in your kitchen 🙂

          • How We Flourish says

            March 25, 2017 at 4:39 pm

            Nope, my coconut oil is regular. I have to melt it between my hands unless it is summer. I prefer it that way – less messy.

      • Peggy Filock says

        September 1, 2018 at 8:30 pm

        What do you use to get the liquid coconut oil up inside the vagina?

        Reply
        • How We Flourish says

          September 5, 2018 at 3:01 pm

          You can either apply it to the outside of the vagina, or to your partner’s penis. Use it as you would any other lube.

          Reply
          • Peggy Filock says

            September 5, 2018 at 9:11 pm

            I want to use it as a treatment to heal vaginal tissue by adding chamomile essential oil to the coconut oil but not sure what the best method of application would be. Would putting it in a veggie capsule and inserting it work? Or is there a better method

  4. Anna @Green Talk says

    January 8, 2015 at 2:55 pm

    Never thought about it. I use coconut oil on my face–why not the other place?

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 8, 2015 at 3:45 pm

      Exactly! I love it!

      Reply
  5. emilysv says

    January 8, 2015 at 3:01 pm

    It’s nice to have a natural + safe alternative if it’s needed. I haven’t needed this with my husband. However, we did use it during the end of my pregnancy since I had tested GBS+ … not as a needed lube, but for it’s antiviral + antibacterial properties {keeping things “cleaner” if you will}, my midwives recommended this to help keep things a bit safer.

    Reply
  6. Megan Stevens says

    January 8, 2015 at 4:08 pm

    Great article. May it reach many who need this simple solution. 🙂

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 8, 2015 at 4:12 pm

      Thank you!

      Reply
  7. linda spiker says

    January 8, 2015 at 4:20 pm

    I have thoguth about using it but was afraid of what it would do to the sheets!

    Reply
    • Claire Fernanda (@morricles) says

      October 21, 2015 at 1:37 pm

      Good point, Linda. I love coconut oil but yes, it WILL stain and you’ll have to wash the sheets immediately (well, next day) to get that stain out. I use a great, organic lube called Aloe Cadabra. (www.aloecadabra.com) Moisturizer AND lube in one product. 95% aloe-based and no staining!

      Reply
      • How We Flourish says

        October 22, 2015 at 6:47 am

        Thank you for the recommendation. If it is completely oil based, this would be great for those who choose to use condoms or are worried about staining. I personally haven’t found any lube that works for me that isn’t coconut oil and I haven’t had issues with staining.

        Reply
  8. reneekohley says

    January 8, 2015 at 7:44 pm

    I would have loved to have known this years ago! Since healing a myriad of hormone issues I no longer struggle with dryness so it isn’t an issue – but this is great info to have out there!

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 8, 2015 at 8:33 pm

      Thanks for sharing that! It gives me hope that I won’t need some much once I heal my hormonal issues!

      Reply
  9. Diana says

    January 8, 2015 at 10:49 pm

    Been Using coconut oil for years as a lubricant. Works for me! 🙂

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 9, 2015 at 8:28 am

      Great to hear!

      Reply
  10. Kelly Smith says

    January 12, 2015 at 11:35 am

    Hi, Chloe! It’s so helpful to see someone willing to talk about and recommend a natural lubricant. Thank you so much for sharing. I had never thought to add an essential oil to coconut oil. I appreciate your suggestions and this post. And guess what, I will unembarrassedly (is that a word) share it via social media too! 🙂

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 12, 2015 at 7:18 pm

      Thanks so much!

      Reply
  11. Tina T. says

    January 12, 2015 at 7:07 pm

    LOL’ed at the comment about family members not reading this!

    Reply
  12. Kristin says

    January 14, 2015 at 11:52 am

    Great post. Congrats on being chosen as a featured post on this week’s Wildcrafting Wednesdays! I hope you’ll join us again and share more of your awesome posts.
    http://www.herbanmomma.com

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 14, 2015 at 11:58 am

      Really?! That’s awesome! Thank you so much!

      Reply
  13. Melissa Lott says

    February 17, 2016 at 9:31 am

    I am curious if using coconut oil as a lube has caused you or anyone vaginal problems? Never thought of using it that way. I love using it as a carrier oil n such and so much more. But seriously never thought as a lube. Definetly interested in the idea.

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      February 19, 2016 at 5:23 am

      I have never heard of that, unless you already have a coconut sensitivity. It is anti-fungal, so it doesn’t encourage yeast, and used for so many natural skin care products. And of course it is edible, which makes it safe for internal use. It is great for the skin, including the vagina!

      Reply
  14. Tina says

    March 30, 2016 at 10:18 am

    Coconut oil gives me problems every time I use it. The very night I use it, I get urinary tract problems. I end up having to get up to pee 4 times a night. I get a slight dull back ache, and the urinary frequency problem goes on and on if I don’t do anything to treat it (i use homeopathic kidney and bladder remedies which work in a day or two.) It also leads to me being very fatigued. It is frustrating. It took me several months to figure out it was the coconut oil to blame. I can use olive oil but it has no antibacterial properties.

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      March 30, 2016 at 2:20 pm

      That is very strange. I have never heard of issues like that, unless the person had an allergy or something. Do you have problems when you use coconut oil in other ways? But I am glad to hear that you have found something that works for you.

      Reply
  15. Melanie says

    May 23, 2016 at 1:45 pm

    Why can’t you use coconut oil as a lubricant if you use latex condoms ?

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      May 28, 2016 at 10:04 am

      Latex condoms are weakened by oil, so any oil-based lubricant cannot be used with them.

      Reply
  16. Avery says

    June 16, 2016 at 3:14 pm

    Dear Chloe,
    Great article! Have you tried grapefruit essential like other coconut. I would like to try something that could add a little taste and good smell to my lady parts. Thank you!

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      June 16, 2016 at 7:14 pm

      I have never tried that or done research on it. A high quality grapefruit essential oil should be safe to use (particularly if it is labeled as safe to use internally), so if you want to try, I would just start at a high dilution to make sure you don’t have a sensitivity reaction.

      Reply
  17. Tina says

    June 26, 2016 at 8:01 pm

    Hi there, Thanks for this post! I’ve been searching everywhere to find info on oils and internal use. Until now I felt like I was the only one. So good to know I’m not alone. Question? Have you or do you recommend adding clary sage to coconut oil and massaging both male and female genitals?

    Thanks for your input here.

    T

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    • How We Flourish says

      June 27, 2016 at 10:29 am

      It is not something I have ever done, so I cannot answer from personal experience. But from my research it would be safe and may help with libido.

      Reply
  18. Silvia says

    February 26, 2017 at 2:07 am

    Can I use fractionated coconut oil? Or which coconut oil is best?

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      March 1, 2017 at 9:28 am

      You certainly could, but I find regular coconut oil to be a lot less messy since it starts out solid.

      Reply
  19. stephjoy1003 says

    March 24, 2017 at 1:09 am

    Just found your page and Love Love Love 🙂 Thanks for sharing your excellent natural diy ideas in such a fun and encouraging way.

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      March 25, 2017 at 4:37 pm

      Thank you so much! <3

      Reply
  20. Michelle says

    May 18, 2017 at 8:55 am

    I just got the ok from my dr after having endometriosis excision to have sex and it was still painful. Do you have any recommendations? I’m desperate.

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      May 25, 2017 at 7:58 am

      I’m sorry, I don’t know anything about endometriosis and sex. I don’t know why it may be painful if using more lubrication doesn’t help, so I can’t offer suggestions.

      Reply
  21. Su Adams-Coulombe says

    May 29, 2017 at 5:27 pm

    Hi! Read your blog with great interest…I’ve had lichen sclerosis for about a decade (I’m 60). I gave up on penetration because it was so unbelievably painful, during sex as well as about 4 days after. I’m going to give coconut oil a shot – I have a new life now and I’d like it to be truly full lol! Thank you so much – something safe and edible was what I was looking for!

    Reply
    • Jess says

      January 24, 2018 at 5:05 pm

      A couple drops of lavender oil added to coconut oil will help with lichen sclerosis also.

      Reply
  22. Laurie Garcia says

    November 9, 2017 at 3:11 pm

    I have vaginal dryness issues and sex really hurts. To use the cocoanut oil do you simply take 1/2 cup of cocoanut oil and add 5ndrops of ylang ylang to it? I do have that essential oil on hand. Could you use it to help moisturize the vagina in addition to as a lube?

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      November 12, 2017 at 10:05 am

      Yes, that’s how I make it. You certainly could use it to moisturize in addition.

      Reply
  23. Tammy Kahler says

    January 22, 2018 at 7:54 pm

    Can u use sensation oil and peppermint together? In the coconut oil. With the Lub ?

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      January 24, 2018 at 2:28 pm

      You certainly could try it. Just cut the amounts of each in half so that the oils are dilute enough.

      Reply
  24. Cieara says

    April 23, 2018 at 4:05 pm

    Any suggestions on flavoring this oil?

    Reply
  25. Rachel says

    June 13, 2018 at 6:23 pm

    Thanks for your post! What natural DIY lubes are good to use with a silicone diaphragm?

    Reply
    • How We Flourish says

      September 5, 2018 at 3:09 pm

      Coconut oil should be fine with a silicone diaphragm.

      Reply
  26. Melissa says

    July 19, 2018 at 8:42 am

    Does adding essential oil will affect your chance to pregnancy?

    Reply

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